One of the most horrible things people do on a frequent basis (to me, and to others even more, as I’ve observed) is justify that it is OK if a child dies if he was sick or had a birth defect. It is unnerving to me that a person, shocked and in horrified disbelief that infants really do die (even in this day and age!!), will suddenly become understanding and condescending when they learn that the child was sickly or not expected to live, usually followed by something rude like, “Well, then it was for the best.” As if the child was worth less, deserved less love because of the defect.
Human life is either equally valuable or equally worthless. You have to make a choice and stick with it.